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Subject: thanks, but no thanks 🙄
“Hit unmute and give me a big a-roo-roo-ROOOO if you’re with me!”
The Zoom room filled with a cacophony of grown-ass adults a-roo-ing louder than my beagles on Amazon delivery day.
Face planted firmly in my hands, I released a sigh of disappointment.
I knew at that moment, I had not found my people.
Here’s the situation…
I’m searching for a new coaching community for myself.
It feels a lot like online dating, but sadly, there’s no Bumble for folks looking for a sexy new coaching program.
The a-roo-ing incident happened yesterday.
I was invited to a 3-day intensive to test out a high-end coaching community.
My hopes were high!
… but 3 hours into the event, I knew it was time to make a graceful exit.
Everything about it was wrong for me.
The extroverted energy, the fast-paced speed, the high intensity.
For the first hour, I told myself to stick it through.
“Okay, so this isn’t your vibe, but the information is going to be really valuable. Don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater!”
Two hours later, I didn’t give a shit about that baby. It was time to GO.
Just kidding about the baby.
The information was useful, but I’ve learned it’s never a good idea to stay in a room full of people who annoy you.
The people in your coaching community are more important than the information and strategies you’re being taught.
As a sensitive and ambitious person, what I need more than knowledge is to be surrounded by fellow deep thinkers and feelers. This is where the magic happens!
Armed with this knowledge and an arsenal full of recovering people-pleaser strategies, I was able to say clearly and confidently, “Not my people, not my place. It’s okay for me to leave.”
In times like these, I reach out to my friends for a reminder that I’m not the only person who doesn’t want to a-roo in a Zoom meeting.
Yesterday I reached out to my lovely friend Linzy Bonham.
She’s a money coach and founder of Money Skills for Therapists.
Linzy and I met in 2016 in a business coaching program.
Although we’re no longer in the same coaching community, we continue to meet monthly for our own mini-Mastermind with our other good friend, Annie Wright.
When Linzy invited me to be a guest on her new podcast, I was an enthusiastic YES!
I knew Linzy is my kinda human, and any room we’re in together is the right room for me.
In this conversation, Linzy and I discuss the connection between business finances and personal happiness. We dive into societal conditions that prime us for overwhelm and burnout, and we give you a treasure chest of practical tools to help you level-up your financial savvy.
Click here to listen to Linzy and I talk about money, business, and friendship.
Talking with Linzy makes me feel like warm honey being drizzled into a steaming hot cup of herbal tea. It’s a yummy reminder that when you find your people, everything feels peaceful and easy.
(And yes, Linzy assured me I wasn’t crazy for leaving the barking coaching event.)
I hope you feel that connection when you listen to our conversation.
Remember, the people are more important than the information.
Find the people who really see you.
Find the community that’ll help you look deeper into yourself as you pursue your ambitions.
Don’t stop searching until you find the room that lights you up.
(And if that room includes group a-roo-ing, I know exactly where to refer you 🙃)
Warmly,
Maegan
